10 Good Parenting Tips

Parenting is not easy.

Good parenting is hard work.

How To Be A Good Parent?

What makes a good parent?

A good parent strives to make decisions in the best interest of the child.

A good parent doesn’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect.

No parent is perfect.

No child is perfect either … keeping this in mind is important when we set our expectations.

But it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t work towards that goal.

Set high standards for ourselves first and then our children second. We serve as a role model for them.

Here are 10 tips on learning effective parenting skills.

Many of them are not quick nor easy. And probably no one can do all of them all of the time.

But if you can keep working on them, even though you may only do part of these some of the time, you will still be moving in the right direction.

Top 10 Tips On Improving Parenting Skills

#1 Be A Good Role Model

Walk the walk. Don’t just tell your child what you want them to do. Show them.

Human is a special species in part because we can learn by imitation​1​. We are programmed to copy other’s actions to understand them and to incorporate them into our own. Children, in particular, watch everything their parents do very carefully.

So, be the person you want your child to be — respect your child, show them positive behavior and attitude, have empathy towards your child’s emotion — and your child will follow suit.

Related: 6 Highly Effective Ways To Teach Kids Respect

#2: Love Them And Show Them Through Action

Show your love.

There is no such thing as loving your child too much. Loving them cannot spoil them​2​.

Only what you choose to do (or give) in the name of love can — things like material-indulgence, leniency, low expectation, and over-protection. When these things are given in place of real love, that’s when you’ll have a spoiled child.

Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues seriously.

Showing these acts of love can trigger the release of feel-good hormones such as oxytocin. These neurochemicals can bring us a deep sense of calm, emotional warmth and contentment, from these the child will develop resilience and not to mention a closer relationship with you​3​.

#3: Practice Kind And Firm Positive Parenting

Babies are born with around 100 billion brain cells (neurons) with relatively little connections. These connections create our thoughts, drive our actions, shape our personalities and basically determine who we are. They are created, strengthened and “sculpted” through experiences across our lives.

Give your child positive experiences. They will have the ability to experience positive experiences themselves and offer them to others​4​.

Give your child negative experiences. They won’t have the kind of development necessary for them to thrive.

Sing that silly song. Have a tickle marathon. Go to the park. Laugh with your child. Ride through an emotional tantrum. Solve a problem together with a positive attitude.

Not only do these positive experiences create good connections in your child’s brain, but they also form the memories of you that your child carries for life.

When it comes to discipline, it seems hard to remain positive. But it is possible to practice Positive Discipline and avoid punitive measures.

Being a good parent means you need to teach your child the moral in what is right and what is wrong. Setting limits and being consistent are the keys to good discipline. Be kind and firm when enforcing those rules. Focus on the reason behind the child’s behavior. And make it an opportunity to learn for the future, rather than to punish for the past.

Related: How To Deal With Toddler Tantrums

#4: Be A Safe Haven For Your Child

Let your child know that you’ll always be there for them by being responsive to the child’s signals and sensitive to their needs. Support and accept your child as an individual. Be a warm, safe haven for your child to explore from.

Children raised by parents who are consistently responsive tend to have better emotional development, social development, and mental health outcomes.

#5: Talk With Your Child And Help Their Brains Integrate

Most of us already know the importance of communication. Talk to your child and also listen to them carefully.

By keeping an open line of communication, you’ll have a better relationship with your child and your child will come to you when there’s a problem.

But there’s another reason for communication — you help your child integrate different parts of his/her brain.

Integration is similar to our body in which different organs need to coordinate and work together to maintain a healthy body.

When different parts of the brain are integrated, they can function harmoniously as a whole, which means fewer tantrums, more cooperative behavior, and more empathy.

To do that, talk through troubling experiences. Ask your child to describe what happened and how he/she felt.

You don’t have to provide solutions. You don’t need to have all the answers to be a good parent. Just listening to them talk and asking clarifying questions will help them make sense of their experiences and integrate memories.

#6: Reflect On Your Own Childhood

Many of us want to parent differently from our parents. Even those who had a happy childhood may want to change some aspects of how they were brought up.

But very often, when we open our mouths, we speak just like our parents did.

Reflecting on our own childhood is a step towards understanding why we parent the way we do.

Make note of things you’d like to change and think of how you’d do it differently in a real scenario. Try to be mindful and change your behavior the next time those issues come up.

Don’t give up if you don’t succeed at first. It takes practice. Lots of practice.

#7: Pay Attention To Your Own Well-Being

Pay attention to your own well-being.

Often times, things such as your own health or the health of your marriage are kept on the back burner when a child is born. If you don’t pay attention to them, they will become bigger problems down the road​5​.

Take good care of yourself physically and mentally. Take time to strengthen your relationship with your spouse. If these two areas fail, your child will suffer, too.

#8: Do Not Spank, No Matter What

No doubt, to some parents, spanking can bring about short-term compliance which sometimes is a much-needed relief for the parents.

However, this method doesn’t teach the child right from wrong. It only teaches the child to fear external consequences. The child is then motivated to avoid getting caught instead.

Spanking your child is modeling to your child that he/she can resolve issues by violence​6​.

Children who are spanked, smacked or hit are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to become bullies and to use verbal/physical aggression to solve disputes. Later in life, they are also more likely to result in delinquency and antisocial behavior, worse parent-child relationships, mental health issues, and domestic violence victims or abusers​7​.

There are a variety of better alternatives to discipline that have been proven to be more effective​8​, such as Positive Discipline (Tip #3 above) and positive reinforcement.

#9: Keep Things In Perspective And Remember Your Parenting Goal

What is your goal of raising a child?

If you’re like most parents, you want your child to do well in school, be productive, be responsible and independent, enjoy meaningful relationships with you and others, be caring and compassionate, and have a happy, healthy and fulfilling life.

But how much time do you spend on working towards those goals?

If you’re like most parents, you probably spend most of the time just trying to get through the day. As authors, Siegel and Bryson, point out in their book, The Whole-Brain Child,

instead of helping your child thrive, you spend most of time just trying to survive!

To not let the survival mode dominate your life, next time you feel angry or frustrated, step back.

Think about what anger and frustration will do for you or your child. Instead, find ways to turn every negative experience into a learning opportunity for him/her. Even epic tantrums can be turned into invaluable brain-sculpting moments.

Doing these will not only help you keep a healthy perspective, but you are also working on one of your primary goals in parenting — building a good relationship with your child.

#10: Take A Shortcut By Utilizing Findings In Latest Psychology And Neuroscience Research

By shortcuts, I don’t mean shortchanging your child. What I mean is to take advantage of what is already known by scientists.

Parenting is one of the most researched fields in psychology.

Many parenting practices or traditions have been scientifically researched, verified, refined or refuted.

For good scientific parenting advice and information, here is one of my favorite science-based parenting books, The Science of Parenting.

Using scientific knowledge is of course not a one-size-fits-all strategy. Every child is different. Even within the best parenting style, there can be many different parenting practices you can choose according to your child’s temperament.

For example, besides spanking, there are many better alternatives, e.g. redirection, reasoning, removing privileges, time-in, etc. You can choose the non-punitive discipline method that works best for your child.

Of course, you can also choose to use “traditional” or “old school” philosophies (e.g. spanking) and may still get the “same” outcome.

According to the Diathsis-Stress Model, people who have vulnerabilities to suffer from a psychological disorder are more likely to develop one when they experience stress.

The diathesis, i.e. vulnerabilities, can be biological or environmental.

So, perhaps your child may be lucky and don’t have such vulnerabilities. They may be resilient and prevail no matter how tough you parent.

But they may be not .

Why risk the damages some of the sub-par practices may create while there’re well researched, better ones?

Taking these “shortcuts” may require more work on your part in the short-term, but can save you lots of time and agony in the long run.

Happy Parenting!

Final Thoughts On Parenting

The good thing is, although parenting is hard, it is also very rewarding. The bad part is the rewards usually come much later than the hard work. But if we try our best now, we will eventually reap the rewards and have nothing to regret.

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The Ultimate Cheat-sheet to Finally Stop Yelling at Your Kids

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There are two types of parents. First, guilty and frustrated ones who lock themselves in the bathroom to cry after yelling at their kids. And, second, those who have learned the skills to solve parenting problems and proudly stand hands akimbo with wind on their hair like the superhero parents they are.

When you thought of having a baby, you never imagined raising little terrorists who don’t listen to a word you say. Right from birth, kids will bite you, spit food on your face, and even pee on you.

While this can also be cute and funny moments that melt your heart like butter, they can also be the cause of misery and agony.

Parenting is, without a doubt, the best thing in the world, but it’s also the most challenging. Without the right tools to navigate the challenges, everything feels like war.

No wonder most parents today are always yelling out of frustration!

In the absence of spanking (which worked magically for us when we were young), most parents have tried threatening, bribing, counting to three, and even grounding their kids.  It works for a minute until the said kids come out angrier, dangerously resentful, and behave even worse.

Crying in the bathroom always comes after you unleash epic verbal diarrhea on your kids and then feel like a monster five minutes later. But the good news is, there is a solution, and today we will show you exactly how to recover from being a yeller to a superhero parent. The kind of parent your kids stare into the sunset with and say, “I love you mom or dad’ without anyone forcing the words out of their mouths.


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Positive Parenting Solutions to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Have you ever felt like you are ready to pack up for utopia and never deal with your kids again?

That’s how most parents feel; at least I know I did. I bumped into several positive parenting resources and read numerous tips about staying calm, taking a break, knowing the triggers, and so forth.

I tried all these, but somehow, I always fell short and found myself exploding like a volcano for the tenth time in a day.

Over time, I found the tools and resources that enabled me to form a Zen environment at home, one where my kids were ready to help around, do their chores without fussing, and I even received those compliments all parents covet from their kids.

Positive Parenting Solutions was finally a resource that understands and effectively addresses my woes. These tools teach you how to stop screaming at your kids, nagging, and using disciplining measures that don’t work. But the best thing about it is that the guilt that drives you to tears will melt like ice on a hot sunny day. In brief, let us consider some of the principles you will learn. 

  1. Body, Mind and Soul Time

In the middle of dealing with temper tantrums, have you ever stopped to wonder what makes your kids behave like little monsters? More often than not, the answer is attention-seeking. Every child wants undivided attention from their parents, and if they don’t get enough of it, they act out.

Unfortunately, between house chores, work, and making sure the family has everything they need, parents don’t have time for one on one time. But, setting aside ten minutes twice a day to sit down with your child and have some mind, soul, and body time is critical to changing your child’s behavior.

One on one time is not for reading a story or watching TV. You should talk, connect, and listen.

  1. How Your Parent Personality Affects Your Child

Your personality and parenting style affect how your child behaves. For instance, parents who operate from an ego state which gives off superiority and controlling vibes receive power struggles as a result. Children may be tiny, but they don’t like being controlled any more than you do.

On the other hand, if your parenting style is pleasing and comforting, your kids learn to walk all over you and treat you like a rag. By tweaking your parenting style to be more assertive but not superior, structural, but not controlling, you are better placed to gain cooperation from your kids.

  1. How to Properly Compliment and Encourage Your Kids

If you are struggling with a child who always leaves their clothes on the floor or never finishes their homework on time, you are not alone. A significant number of parents will tell you that their college-going kids still bring laundry home over the weekend. Is it that children can’t be independent and self-reliant?

Rewarding kids for doing their chores, finishing their homework in 30 minutes, and even eating is one of the tactics the 21st-century parent has adopted. While it’s a great incentive to get things done, in the long run, it makes kids feel entitled; and things that were fun to do are now boring chores.

The art of positive parenting teaches that you should encourage your kids to do things from a young age and then compliment them even if it wasn’t well done.

 For instance, my kids do the dishes every day since they were very little. Between you and me, I always redo them after they go to bed, but they don’t know that. By encouraging them to do dishes and other chores around the house, I am raising self-reliant human beings who will not be using paper plates in college.

Encouraging your kids makes them feel capable and also know that you are proud of what they do. If you keep criticizing the things they do, the child eventually gives up because they can’t make you happy.

  1. How to Positively Take Action

Stop Talking and Take Action is perhaps the best nugget in Positive Parenting Solutions. When you tell a child the same thing over and over again, it means they are not hearing you.

In fact, they are either ignoring you or have tuned your voice out.

Once you have calmly warned the child about something and outlined the consequence of doing it, you don’t need to keep repeating yourself. Simply and quietly take action.

For example, if you warned them to stop coloring the wall with crayons, but continue to do it, go over, take the crayons, and put them away. You can expect a fiery throwdown to come after that, which you will ignore and walk away.

The conversation can go something like: “I see you decided you don’t want the privilege of using your crayons. That’s ok. I will keep them for now. I’m sure you will make a better decision next time.”

A study in the Journal of Child Development shows that yelling causes children to have anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem. You don’t feel good yelling at your kids either. By following the nuggets of wisdom outlined in the Positive Parenting Solution course, you can finally become the parent you have always dreamed of. Better yet, you can raise confident, well-adjusted, and independent kids.

As I started to review this program I found three pieces of info that made the decision to move forward with purchasing easier.

  1. I could sample the program with an hour intro video. This allowed me to feel more comfortable with the presenter, Amy McCready, along with the content.
  2. There is no risk to you with their 30-Day Money Back Guarantee. No questions asked. So if the process doesn’t end up working for your family you can easily cancel.
  3. This is not a subscription service. Once you pay for the course, you will have LIFETIME access. I don’t know about you but for me knowing I don’t have to remember to cancel in a year makes this a much easier decision. 

I hope you found this post helpful and it helps you find a way forward to a Cloud Free Life with your family.


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Keto Diet Benefits

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The Ketogenic diet refers to a form of dieting where high fats, adequate protein and low carbs are consumed. Its aim is to deplete the body’s glycogen reserves so that it relies on fat and protein for energy. The body then undergoes ketosis, which is a metabolic state in which your liver produces a high number of ketones as an alternative fuel source for the brain. This form of dieting is quite popular, with dozens of pictures showing before and after results circulating all over social media. These are some benefits of the keto diet and how it may help in achieving your goals.  

Weight Loss 

Several studies have shown that people on a high fat, low carb diet burn fat at a faster rate than those with a high carb, low fat diet. This is primarily because lower insulin levels caused by the low carb diet (keto), help to remove excess water from the body. During ketosis, you experience reduced levels of hunger, which can be extremely beneficial in controlling caloric intake, promoting overall weight loss. It has been noted that low carb diets are also effective in reducing visceral fat, primarily stored in the abdominal cavity.  

Mental Performance 

The ketones produced from a low carb diet are a much more efficient source of energy than glucose. Studies have indicated that they can improve cognitive impairment and even help with diseases such as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. The high-fat diet helps to support the balance of essential omega 3s and omega 6s which are vital for optimal brain function. Additionally, ketosis is able to boost mitochondria production and adenosine triphosphate within the brain’s memory cells, thereby improving mental performance and clarity.  

Reduced risk of Chronic Disease 

A ketogenic diet can boost the body’s defense against a variety of conditions. By reducing inflammation, and improving mitochondrial function, it can help to mitigate the risk of developing several chronic diseases. Cancer cells typically possess abnormal mitochondria, which need an increased supply of glycogen. Ketosis allows for normal cells to be fed while starving the cancer cells, as they are unable to utilize the ketones for energy because of their dysfunctional mitochondria.  

Improved Blood Pressure 

High blood pressure significantly increases the risk of several diseases and is a leading cause of deaths worldwide. A low-carb diet has been proven to be more effective than a low-fat diet in reducing blood pressure. In fact, some claim that it is just as effective as taking pills. This combined with the weight loss derived from a ketogenic diet, is sure to vastly improve cardiovascular health and function.  

It has been proven by numerous studies in the realm of nutrition science, that this form of dieting can have a very positive impact on your overall health and bodily function. As long as you can find a way to maintain the discipline, the rewards are abundant. For those that have not been able to gain many results from traditional methods, the keto approach is definitely something worth considering.  

References: 

medium.com/@gschmaus/the-ketogenic-diet-and-chronic-disease-3695b2275edd 

healthline.com/nutrition/10-benefits-of-low-carb-ketogenic-diets#section7 

drjockers.com/benefits-ketogenic-diet/ 

medicalnewstoday.com/articles/319196.php

Custom Keto Diet

The custom keto diet is a brand new product that allows someone to create their very own keto diet plan based on their food preferences, daily activity levels, height, weight and target weight goals.

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They use scientific research and proven studies to create personalized ketogenic diet plans that maximize fat burning via the correct calories and macronutrients for each individual.

The customers keto diet plan is available to access immediately after payment.

Here’s what you will get:

  • An eight-week meal plan created based on the expertise of certified nutritionists, personal trainers, and chefs.
  • Meals that have calorie and macronutrient content tailored to your specific situation and goals.
  • A nutrition plan with food variety to ensure you will get a wide range of nutrients and boost the likelihood of sticking to your diet.
  • Meals that are based on personal food preferences to make your diet enjoyable and help you stay on track with your plan.
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  • We’ll show you what to eat every day to reach your goals in the fastest and most enjoyable way.

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Can Air Purifiers Capture Viruses?

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As Covid-19 ravages the planet, our lives have changed significantly. Businesses have closed down, employees are out of work, and we are all social distancing to slow down the rate of infection. One thing that many people have also begun to wonder is whether a simple air purifier might help to filter out all of those virus particles floating in the air.

Why Does it Matter?

Diseases such as Covid-19 can spread through droplets in the air. Whenever an infected person sneezes or coughs, tiny droplets are expelled, and these droplets can contain thousands and thousands of virus particles.

In some cases, the droplets can remain airborne for a few hours, depending on conditions. As the virus filled droplets come into contact with mucous membranes in our eyes, nose, and throat, they enter our system and begin multiplying rapidly.

But it’s not just Covid-19 that spreads in this way. The flu and the common cold (which also happens to be a Coronavirus), are also spread via airborne virus particles. This is especially concerning for anyone who is already ill or immuno-compromised.

What About Other Particles?

Of course, it’s not just viruses that we should be concerned about. There are other things floating in the air around us that can cause things such as allergies. Here are some of the things that commonly become airborne:

  • Pet dander and hair
  • Dust
  • Pollen
  • Mold spores

The problem is that all of these particles can cause a range of symptoms, including itchy skin, runny nose, itchy eyes, coughing, congestion, fatigue, and sneezing. In the case of people with severe respiratory issues, such as asthma, the results can be serious indeed, and may even require hospitalization.

Black mold is a common allergy causing particle. These spores can cause a whole range of symptoms, from the mild to the severe. In fact, some homes are so full of black mold that the mold spores become airborne and can even cause depression in the worst cases.

What Can Be Done About it?

Given that our environment is full of allergens such as dust, pet hair, and so on, what can we do about it? The good news is that a good quality air purifier can help to remove many of these particles.

An air purifier works by taking air in and filtering it through a special membrane. The purified air is expelled and the space gradually becomes cleaner.

The Importance of Good Filtering

Regular air purifiers use a standard HEPA filter. The air is filtered through this membrane and all of the particles in the air get trapped by it. The clean air then gets filtered back into the space. But there’s a problem with that when it comes to trapping virus particles.

Those regular filters are great at trapping things such as dust, pet dander, pollen, and so on. In fact, they do a wonderful job and many people benefit. The problem with virus particles is that most of them are too small to be trapped by these filters.

For example, the Covid-19 virus is only 0.125 microns in size. Other virus particles are even smaller. To put that into perspective, a human hair ranges in diameter between 40 and 120 microns. That’s many many times larger than even the largest virus particle. This means that the air purifier must use a special filter to trap them.

What Is the Best Air Purifier for the Job?

So, how can you reliably trap all of those potentially nasty viruses in the air? The good news is that the best air purifier for this job is Air Doctor. This air purifier not only filters out all of the regular allergens in the air, such as pet dander, mold spores, and pollen, but it can also trap viruses. So, how does it do that?

The most important part of any air purifier is the filter, but you need a special filter to trap tiny virus particles, such as Covid-19. This is where Airdoctor is different. Rather than using a regular HEPA filter, it uses an UltraHEPA filter instead.

The biggest advantage of the UltraHEPA filter is that it can effectively trap and contain particles that are only 0.003 microns in diameter. Given that Covid-19 and other virus particles are much bigger than this, it makes the Airdoctor air purifier the best device for cleaning the air in any space.

The effectiveness of the UltraHEPA filter also means that it can capture particles that other filters struggle with, including smoke, and Volatile Organic Compounds (VOC). Just remember to change the filter out regularly to keep the air nice and pure.

Conclusion

In these uncertain days, many people are turning to devices such as air purifiers to help them through their days. Regular air purifiers are great at filtering out large particles such as mold spores, pollen, and so on, but they struggle to trap virus particles. The good news is that the UltraHEPA filter in the Air Doctor will trap virus particles.

How To Save Your Marriage

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Each year in America alone, nearly 1 million marriages end in divorce.This is an incredible number! That would be as if all the citizens of Houston, Texas were divorced (each divorce leaves 2 people).

The question is how many of those marriages could be saved. Unfortunately, that is an invisible number. If your marriage stays together, it is hard to find in the statistics. As Marian Wright Edelman wrote, statistics are stories with the tears washed off.

Can your marriage be saved? If I could answer that, I would be a wealthy man. I can tell you that if your marriage is in trouble and you do nothing, the outcome is guaranteed. If you do something, there is a much better chance that your marriage will be saved.

And I can tell you, in four simple steps what you can do to save your marriage. You can start right now. But you must understand that I said “simple.” That is not the same as “easy.” These steps are not easy. They do, however, give you a path that you must follow if you want to change the destiny of a marriage in trouble.

Here are the 4 steps:

1) Quit the blame game. Stop blaming your spouse and stop blaming yourself. This is the first step because marriages get frozen into a pattern of blame that immobilizes any prospect of progress. Instead, the momentum gets dragged down and down.

Blame is our way of avoiding seeing ourselves clearly. It is much easier to point the finger somewhere and say “It’s their fault.” But in marriage, you can just as easily turn that pointing finger on yourself and place the blame there, saying “it’s all my fault.”

Unfortunately, blame feels good in the short-term, but in the long-term, it prevents any shift or change. So, even if you can make a long list of why you or your spouse should be blamed, forget it. Even if that list is factual, it will not help you put your marriage back together. Blame is the fuel of divorces.

2) Take responsibility. Decide you can do something. Change always begins with one person who wants to see a change. Understand that taking responsibility is not the same as taking the blame (see above).

Instead, blame is saying “regardless of who is at fault, there are some things I can do differently, and I am going to do them.” What buttons do you allow your spouse to push? What buttons do you push with your spouse? Decide not to allow those buttons to be pushed and stop pushing the buttons.

What amazes me in my counseling is that everyone knows what they should be doing or not doing. But it is difficult to move in that direction. Don’t be caught in that. Decide that you will take action.

The difference between blame and responsibility is this: if I am in a burning building, I can stand around trying to figure out who started the blaze, why it has spread so quickly, and who I am going to sue when it is over (blame), or I can get myself and anyone else I can out of that building (taking responsibility). When a marriage is in trouble, the house is on fire. How will you take action to save the marriage?

3) Get resources from experts. If others have been helped, you can be, too. Experts with a great deal more perspective and experience can be a real help in these situations. Do your research and divide the useless from the useful, then take advantage of the useful.

Don’t assume that your situation is so different from every other situation. I can tell you that after 20-some years of providing therapy, not too much new comes through my doors. Don’t get me wrong; the story changes, but the dynamics are the same.

Remember what Albert Einstein said, “The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.” In other words, what got you into trouble will not get you out of trouble. That requires a whole new level of thinking. And that is what you get from an outside expert, someone with a fresh perspective.

4) Take action. More damage is done by doing nothing by taking a misstep. It is too easy to get paralyzed by the situation. Therapists often talk about “analysis paralysis.” This occurs when people get so caught up in their churning thoughts and attempts to “figure things out” that they never take action.

It is not enough to simply understand what is causing the problem. You must then act! On a daily basis, I find people coming to my office with the belief that if they can just understand their problem, it will resolve itself. That simply does not happen. Resolution of the situation takes action.

Will your marriage be saved? If you follow my suggestions, you have infinitely more opportunity for saving your marriage than if you do nothing. Marriage is one of those places where it takes two to make it work, but only one to really mess things up. You can only do your part, but many times, that is enough. Resolve not to ask the question but to begin to act.

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The Forgotten Power of Plants

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Signs of Infertility

What exactly is infertility?

The problems with either conceiving a child, or with carrying out the pregnancy to its eventual fruitful end, fall under the definition of infertility. Infertility is the incapability of an individual to become pregnant, in case of females, or the incapability to induce pregnancy, in case of the males. The inability of an individual to carry out a pregnancy to its full term is also dubbed infertility. How does one recognize infertility? What are the signs of infertility?

Signs of infertility are not always evident. Most people go through life without knowing there is a problem with their reproductive systems, attributing failed pregnancies to providence. In fact, miscarriages are the most common indicator of infertility. Signs of infertility in women:

In women, the signs of infertility are more readily recognized as compared to men. Endometriosis causes the lining of the uterus to grow outside the uterus.

Bacterial infections may begin around the uterus and spread to other reproductive organs, resulting in infertility. Fibroids in the uterus are indicative of infertility. Tumors in the cervix often cause stenosis, or narrowing of the cervix, which is a common indicator of infertility.

Ovulating before the tenth day and after the twentieth day of one’s monthly cycle, pre-menstrual spotting, menopausal symptoms, etc. are indicative of luteal phase defect, and thus in turn are signs too.

Irregular menstrual cycles are the most common indication in females that they might have some problems with fertility. However, an irregular menstrual cycle is not conclusive in itself, but it is definitely one of the signs of infertility.

Issues regarding body weight are often indicators of being infertile. For a woman, being too thin, or anorexic, will definitely hinder pregnancy, since the body does not have the proper nutritional requirements, or the required strength.

Alternatively, obesity can also be a sign. Obesity is accompanied by hormonal imbalance, which affects the reproductive system and pregnancy. Signs of Infertility in Men:

Like females, in males too, either obesity, or anorexia, is an indication that he is infertile. Apart from these, anatomical defects may also be signs of infertility. Undescended testicles, or damage to scrotum and the gonads, are possible indicators too. Wearing tight undergarments, or exposing the testicles to heat, may render the person unable to produce the required number of sperms, or unable to produce sperms altogether, resulting in infertility.

Determining the signs of infertility:

There are many medical procedures for detecting the signs that help to determine whether an individual is infertile or not. Doctors usually prescribe one or more of the following medical tests:

. Hysterosalpingography. A dye injected into the vagina is monitored to check for blockage in the fallopian tubes or uterus.

. Laparoscopy. If disease and other physical problems are present in the ovaries, fallopian tubes, or in the uterus, infertility is suggested. This may be detected through laparoscopy.

Infertility is a problem which can be solved if it is addressed in the holistic way, which is, using a multifaceted method of healing. Getting regular health checkups, taking supplements to combat existing problem, exercising and stress reduction techniques are only part of the holistic solution to infertility. The holistic approach is not only a surefire way to increase your chances of conception it also guarantees a safe and healthy pregnancy.

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